My Girlfriend is Pregnant, Now What?

You didn’t expect this, but you just got the word. She’s pregnant.

Right now, it may feel like everything is spinning out of control. But here’s what matters most: how you respond will reveal more about your character than almost anything else you’ve faced so far.

You may not be able to control what’s happening, but you do have influence. The way you support your partner can make a lasting difference for both of you.

In this blog, you’ll learn what she may be feeling, what options exist, and how to take your next steps with confidence and care.

Is My Girlfriend Pregnant?

Before assuming anything, it’s important to confirm whether she’s actually pregnant. A test is a good place to start, but it isn’t the final word.

If your partner hasn’t taken one yet, Charis Pregnancy Clinic offers lab-quality pregnancy tests at no cost.

If the test is positive, the next essential step is an ultrasound.

Why? Because a positive test only detects the hormone linked to pregnancy—it doesn’t confirm if the pregnancy is developing in the uterus or if it’s viable. An ultrasound shows if the pregnancy is progressing normally and helps identify any complications early.

At Charis, your partner can receive a free ultrasound, and you’re welcome to join her for the appointment.

What Not To Do When Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant

It’s normal to feel scared, angry, or completely lost right now. Those emotions are valid. But how you manage them matters.

Before talking about what to do, let’s start with what not to do.

Don’t Walk Away

Your first instinct might be to step back and let her handle it alone. But walking away won’t make the situation disappear. She’s feeling the weight of this too—and she needs to know she’s not in it alone.

Don’t Fight

Stress can make both of you say things you don’t mean. Avoid letting fear turn into arguments. Instead, focus on listening. You don’t need perfect answers. Just being present and calm can mean more to her than anything you say.

What Options Are There?

When it comes to the pregnancy itself, the decision belongs to her—but that doesn’t mean your voice and presence don’t matter.

In most unplanned pregnancies, women typically choose to carry 60% of the time and abort 40% of the time.¹ Each choice carries emotional and physical impact.

Your role is to support her, not pressure her. Studies show that when women feel pushed toward abortion, they are more likely to experience long-term emotional pain or trauma afterward.²

She needs understanding, not pressure. The best thing you can do is make space for honest conversations about what matters most to both of you—your future, your values, and what kind of man you want to be.

“I’m Not Ready To Be a Dad.”

You’re not alone in that thought. Most men don’t feel ready. But readiness isn’t about having every detail figured out—it’s about being willing to show up and grow.

Becoming a dad can bring out the best in you: strength, patience, and purpose. You don’t have to know it all right now. What matters is choosing to keep learning and standing by your partner.

Worries about finances, freedom, or lost opportunities are normal, but they don’t define your future. Many men discover that fatherhood adds meaning to their lives in ways they never expected.

Think about it this way: few men ever regret stepping up to be a dad—but many regret walking away from the chance.

Support in Utah

You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Charis Pregnancy Clinic in Utah provides free and confidential support for both you and your partner.

Services include:

Relationship and options counseling
Fatherhood mentorship
Access to baby supplies and practical resources

You’ll find a safe, judgment-free space to talk through what’s next and what it means for both of you.

Sources

1. https://guttmacher.org/sites/default/files/factsheet/fb-unintended-pregnancy-us.pdf

2. https://lozierinstitute.org/whose-choice-pressure-to-abort-linked-to-worsening-of-subsequent-mental-health/